Standing Up for Myself

Hey, everyone. I’m currently on a holiday hiatus, but something came up today that made me feel very empowered, and I wanted to share it with you.

My next official post will be January 5th, 2018. (no longer on a schedule)


I’m usually a very reserved and introverted person. I have a hard time standing up for myself, especially in public with strangers. Confrontation makes me nervous and it’s frankly something I avoid, if I can.

Today, a man at a local store called out to me, “I like your leggings!” I replied with a “thank you” because yes, they are badass leggings. (shout out to my people at Wild Bangarang!)

If it had stopped there, it would have been fine; compliments are OK. However, the wolf whistle that he made (after I had turned the corner)  was not.

I had to stop.

Did that really just happen?

I’ve had unwanted advances (well beyond just compliments) before. The last time was humiliating for me. Afterwards, I avoided wearing my leggings because of it.

I decided that I was tired of letting these people control how I feel. I am tired of letting their comments affect my wardrobe choices or how I think about myself.

I called back with a simple, but firm, “That’s not appropriate.” His disappointed “Oh…” was satisfying. I felt that for the fist time in my life I had really stood up for myself, against my nature.

Don’t give others control over your happiness. Don’t tolerate disrespect. Stand up for yourself, even if it makes you uncomfortable.

4 thoughts on “Standing Up for Myself

  1. Good for you!! You are a bad ass woman, who should be able to wear whatever you want without fear of harassment! Hopefully you taught that man a lesson and he will think twice next time😀
    P.S. I need to see these awesome leggings!

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  2. I’m glad to know you stood up for yourself and got to feel that empowering feeling afterwards. The more we as women stand up to remarks and actions that make us feel weak and helpless, the easier it is to become strong and empowered. The first time is the hardest, I think. I only wish I had done it sooner! Thanks for sharing your story.

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    1. I was so nervous but it was definitely a good feeling afterwards. I wish I had done so sooner, as well. I hope more people do the same, though I definitely understand why a lot of women don’t say anything.

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