Hey, everyone. I’m currently on a holiday hiatus, but something came up today that made me feel very empowered, and I wanted to share it with you.
My next official post will be January 5th, 2018. (no longer on a schedule)
I’m usually a very reserved and introverted person. I have a hard time standing up for myself, especially in public with strangers. Confrontation makes me nervous and it’s frankly something I avoid, if I can.
Today, a man at a local store called out to me, “I like your leggings!” I replied with a “thank you” because yes, they are badass leggings. (shout out to my people at Wild Bangarang!)
If it had stopped there, it would have been fine; compliments are OK. However, the wolf whistle that he made (after I had turned the corner) was not.
I had to stop.
Did that really just happen?
I’ve had unwanted advances (well beyond just compliments) before. The last time was humiliating for me. Afterwards, I avoided wearing my leggings because of it.
I decided that I was tired of letting these people control how I feel. I am tired of letting their comments affect my wardrobe choices or how I think about myself.
I called back with a simple, but firm, “That’s not appropriate.” His disappointed “Oh…” was satisfying. I felt that for the fist time in my life I had really stood up for myself, against my nature.
Don’t give others control over your happiness. Don’t tolerate disrespect. Stand up for yourself, even if it makes you uncomfortable.